Innocent Comprehension August 30, 2006Posted by Zara's Mama in language, Zara.
After work yesterday, I went to have dinner at my sis’ place and to pick up Zara.
When I arrived, she was playing in my sis’ room. My nephew who’s sitting for his UPSR (Primary 6 exams) next week was studying in the room as well.
Me : “Zara, lets go out. Nicholas kor kor need to study.”
Zara : “Don’t want.”
Me : “We must go out. And let Nicholas kor kor study.”
Zara : *glanced at his books* “Nicholas kor kor need to study A, B, C.”
I shut the room door and led her outside.
Zara : *came to me and asked* “Go yi-yi (Chinese : mum’s sis) room jump jump on the bed.”
Me : “Cannot, Nicholas kor kor studying. When Nicholas kor kor finished his exams, then you can go in and jump jump on the bed like a crazy girl.”
Zara was happy with my answer and continued playing in the living room.
10 minutes later, when Nicholas came out of the room to get himself a drink, Zara came to me and pointed to him.
Zara : “Nicholas kor kor finished exam already. Zara can go into the room to jump jump on the bed like crazy.”
That’s her comprehension of ‘study’ and ‘exam’.
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Lazy – These few days August 29, 2006Posted by Zara's Mama in parenting, pregnancy, Zara.
I’m getting so lazy… or maybe I should say tired.
Lots of work to do, and these 2 days, I have gone to the office to work and sent Zara and Tuyam to my sister’s place.
Zara had a good weekend.
On Saturday at 8am, she woke Daddy up, “Daddy wake up! Zara want go pet shop.”
When we asked her what she wanted to do in the pet shop, she said, “See iguana, dog dog, cat cat, rabbit, mouse”.
So Daddy oblidged, and I told him his daugther has more persuasive power than me. I could never drag him out of bed like that.
On Sunday morning, when we stepped out of the house for a walk, we met Zara’s friend Chloe and her mum walking passed our gate also taking a walk.
Chloe is 9mths older than Zara, and we always see her in the park. Chloe’s mum is also pregnant like me, so we have lots of things to share, about our daugthers, about our pregnancies.
So we went walking together, 2 pregnant ladies with 2 toddlers.
After our walk, Chloe invited Zara to her house to play. Zara had a good time there, this is her first visit to a friend’s house. She wasn’t shy at all, digging out Chloe’s toys from her toy box without prompting, playing the slide, jumping on the sofa like it’s her own home.
I should invite Chloe over next time but I wonder if Zara will so willingly sharing her toys.
Yesterday when I went to pick Zara up from my sis’ place, she told me, “Zara happy. Got kor kor (referring to my nephews) play with Zara.”
She must be so lonely always stuck at home with mummy and Tuyam all the time.
And for me, after getting home from my sister’s place, I just feel like sleeping and do nothing.. So I went to bed with Zara at 10pm. Zzzzzzz.
Getting Ready For Her Birthday August 28, 2006Posted by Zara's Mama in celebration, development, language, Zara.
Here’s Zara getting ready for her birthday..
Girl Or Boy August 25, 2006Posted by Zara's Mama in myself, parenting, pregnancy.
Lots of people are asking me this question.
I had a feeling I was going to have a boy from the very beginning. Because of the timing of conception (on the dot of ovulation day), and the experience I have with this pregnancy is very different from Zara’s. Not to mention seeing the baby’s hand reach out for the needle during the amnio test, an indication of a boy in the making.
With Zara, there was no morning sickness. My stomach was growing very rounded and towards the side (like a flat wok). With this baby, it is pointy, all growing towards the front.
Do I prefer a girl or a boy? I asked Zara that question as well, “Do you want mummy to have a baby girl or baby boy?” She always replies, “Baby girl.” If Zara was a boy, I would definitely hope for a girl, since she’s a girl, does it matter?
A boy would have completed the family, an ideal. A girl and a boy, what more can you ask?
Daddy would prefer a boy, he said he could share his engineering hobby with him, i.e. fixing the car, building amplifiers etc.
But deep down, I would like another girl.
I think girls are easier to care for, girls ‘listen’ more, and when they grow up, they tend to be closer to their families than boys.
From an economic standpoint, a girl would be better, because she can inherit all Zara’s and Tasha’s clothes and shoes.
My friend who has a girl first and a boy then, told me the caring of the KKJ (Chinese : male organ) is tougher. There are so many folds to clean, like below the testicles, the folds between the penis and testicles etc.
The reason why I wanted to have a second child was to let Zara have a sibling to talk to and discuss things with when we’re old and gone. How many brother and sister out there who are very close? Who can talk about anything under the sun? I just look at myself, we’re never that close to my brother, I talk to my SIL more than him; but with my sisters, we get along fine (of course there were tongue lashing, fists fighting days), we can talk about anything, our MILs, our sex lives, the latest skin care, etc.
So I was very anxious to know the sex of the baby.
And I am very happy to know that we’re going to have another girl! I can sense a wee bit of disappointment in Daddy when I told him the sex, but after a while, he said, “actually, girl is better also hor?” My reply to him is, “No matter what, don’t ask me try for a boy huh, I’m closing shop!”
About Baby August 24, 2006Posted by Zara's Mama in language, pregnancy, Zara.
Few days back
Me : Zara, mummy buy you new bed, you sleep on new bed ok? Your cot let baby sleep.
Zara : Don’t want. Zara sleep Zara’s bed.
Me : Where will baby sleep then?
Zara : *pointing to our bed* With Mummy and Daddy
Me : Zara, mummy buy you new bed, you sleep on new bed ok? Let baby sleep in your cot.
Zara : Don’t want. Baby sleep new bed. Zara sleep in the cot.
Me : Why? Mummy get you nice nice new bed woh, you don’t want?
Zara : Don’t want. Zara likes Zara’s cot. Baby sleep new bed.
Me : What about nap time? Can baby sleep with you on the mattress (she has a mattress downstairs for her afternoon nap) down stairs?
Zara : Cannot. Baby sleep in small cot downstairs.
Me : But, we don’t have small cot downstairs.
Zara : Baby sleep on the floor then.
Me : But the floor is so hard and cold. You must sayang (Malay : love) baby, let baby sleep on the mattress with you.
Zara : Sleep on mummy’s body then.
Me : *roll eyes*
We still have yet to sort out the sleeping arrangement. We thought of getting a new bed for Zara, park it next to my side of the bed (like we did with the cot), and let baby sleep in the cot. Zara doesn’t seem keen with the idea.. but maybe she’ll change her mind when we bring her bed shopping.
By the way, got my amnio test result, and every thing is ok.. what a relief. So I’m now half way with my pregnancy, 20more weeks to go.
Lawyer Buruk II August 22, 2006Posted by Zara's Mama in language, Zara.
Before we went out over the weekend, I had a short top and shorts on, my tummy showing.
Me : *sticking out my tummy* Zara, can mummy go to the supermarket like that?
Zara : *looked at me* Cannot.
Me : Why?
Zara : Because can see breast.
Me : Can see breast meh?
Zara : *pointed to my belly button and corrected herself* Can see belly button.
Zara likes to point to my stomach and says : Mummy stomach got baby.
And I like to ask her back : What about Zara? What is in Zara’s stomach?
Zara used to say : Zara’s stomach got worms (thanks to SIL who told Zara she would have worms in the stomach if she continued to suck her thumb)
And I told her she no longer have worms, because she’s stopped sucking her thumb. Now her reply is : Zara’s stomach got egg and cheese (her staple every day).
While checking out our wedding photos.
Zara : Daddy so handsome.
Me : Mummy pretty or not?
Zara : No
Me : Why mummy not pretty?
Zara : Mummy got mole. Like raisin. (referring to the mole I have on chest which is, yup, like a raisin, which could be seen on the wedding photo)
I wanted to test her again later.
Me : Zara, Mummy pretty or not?
Zara : …. (quiet)
Me : Mummy pretty or not?
Zara : Mummy happy.
Aiyo.. cannot say I’m pretty just to please me meh??
I probably have to dress up more nicely at home these days.
I have a night conference, after changing her to her pajamas, I told her I need to go and work, and Daddy will look after her.
Zara : Mummy stay with you (me).
Me : Mummy need to work, Daddy stay with you.
Zara : *trying to get rid of Daddy* Daddy, go to the toilet outside poo poo (referring to the shared toilet outside which we use for big business as the ensuite toilet in the master bed room flushing system is not that good)
Daddy : Daddy no poo poo. Daddy look after you while mummy works.
Zara : Go to the toilet outside to she-she (Chinese : pee) then. Go she-she. Mummy stay with you (me).
21st Month Update August 21, 2006Posted by Zara's Mama in development, Zara.
~ Weight should be more than 9.7kg (didn’t weigh her this month)
~ Height : 83cm
~ No new teeth sprouting. She has a total of 16 teeth.
~ Climbing up stairs without holding on to anything, however, we asked her to at least use the wall to support her, just in case.
~ Able to rinse her mouth and spit out, even moving her cheek to do a through rinse.
~ Able to draw circles (although not perfect).
~ Climbing up ladders in the park unassisted.
~ Able to put on her pants with some help.
~ She can sing and recite some nursery rhymes from beginning till the end.
~ Her reasoning skill is getting very good.
~ She’s learning new words very quickly, and the correct usage of them.
~ She’s able to sing along with most of the songs she has on CD, VCD and DVD, for words she’s not sure, she’ll just mumble something to the tune.
(and lots more which I’d captured in some of the posts)
Feeding and Food:
3 meals and 3 milk feeds a day. Eats a lot of snacks in between,
Her current favourite junk food is chocolate ice cream (she only fancies chocolate flavour and nothing else), which I have to keep a tub in the freezer all the time.
She only wants to have egg and cheese these days for breakfast and lunch.
And for dinner, as long there’s a fish or an egg dish, she’s fine.
She refuses most leafy vege (just suddenly), preferring only beans (long beans, peas). Luckily she takes lots of fruits or she won’t have enough fiber intake.
~ Officially weaned off thumb sucking.
~ Extremely clingy nowadays, probably feels threatened by my growing stomach and the coming baby.
~ Showing preference to which kid she likes to play with in the park, she only likes to ‘hang around’ this particular girl, who’s 8mths older than her.
~ Very affectionate, giving everybody lots of hugs and kisses, and saying “I love you” to Daddy and me.
~ Very emotional, especially when she sees animals in distressed (mummy not in the same league as the animals).
Play and Learn August 18, 2006Posted by Zara's Mama in development, Zara.
She started showing interest in stacking blocks, and looks like she’s doing quite ok. She was occupied with this for quite a while, leaving Tuyam enough time to wash the dishes and her milk bottles. She was so patient, every time the ‘tower’ toppled, she just restack them, and she refused to let me help her.
In the evening, while Tuyam folded the day’s laundry. She picked up her favourite pants, and started trying to put on. She’s doing quite well here, but still don’t know how to handle the back, exposing her diaper. She repeated this a few times, taking it off, putting it back on.
When it’s time to go to the park and I told her no long pants should be worn. She quickly changed to her shorts.
If she gets better.. she may be able to help change the baby in future. Hee hee.
Lawyer Buruk August 17, 2006Posted by Zara's Mama in language, Zara.
My little girl is turning into a lawyer buruk (Malay : a mediocre lawyer) these days. She’s learning to negotiate, giving instructions, recalling events.
Tuyam was having tooth ache and she complained to Zara hoping to get some sympathy and hence obedience from her.
Tuyam : Zara, kakak teeth pain pain.
Zara : *not empathetic* Because kakak never brush teeth!
She’s been very clingy and prefers me to bath her, even in the morning (which is all done by Tuyam during weekdays).
Tuyam : Zara, come take bath.
Zara : Don’t want kakak bath Zara. Kakak go hang tothes (clothes). Mummy bath bath Zara.
Tuyam : Mummy need to work. Kakak finished hang clothes.
Zara : Kakak bath bath Rusty then (Rusty is our cat). Take off Rusty diaper and baju.
Tuyam : Rusty got wear diaper and baju meh?
Zara : Take off Rusty collar then.
I just watched her in amazement, smiling to myself, taking in her ‘argument’.
She shouted for me at 5:30pm, asking me to bring her to the park.
Me : Mummy not yet finish work. Later ok, one more hour, then mummy come down and bring you to the park.
Zara : Mummy work work first yeah. After bring Zara to ship park (she always refers to our park as Ship park). Kakak cooking cooking at home. Then mummy bring you (me) to see snails (on our way back, we sometimes get to see snails). Then bath bath with you (me). Then makan (Malay : meal) time!
And every day before we leave the house for the park, Zara will say bye bye to Tuyam and add this, “Kakak cook nice nice mum mum (referring to her dinner) yeah?”
Zara’s awareness August 16, 2006Posted by Zara's Mama in language, Zaria.
Zara is not bothered when I’m around her naked. In fact, she behaves as though it’s the most natural thing to do.
When we shower together, she loves asking me to carry her, and she’ll cling to me like a koala and lay her head on my shoulder. She probably likes the skin touch skin feeling.
The strange thing is, when Daddy is around her naked (even just being topless), she would say, “Daddy shame shame, never wear baju (Malay: clothes)”. If Daddy is topless, she would not let him hug her. She would just say, “Don’t want” without giving a reason (“Becausssssssss.. don’t want” she would say).
We tried this a couple of times, and the behaviour is always the same. I really wonder why.
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I tried to check if she knows the different between a man and a woman one day.
So I asked her, “Mummy got petpet (Chinese : female organ) or not?”
Zara answered, “Got. Like Zara. Zara got petpet.”
And then I asked her, “Daddy got petpet or not?”
Zara answered, “No. Daddy don’t have. Daddy got pineapple. Got hair one.”
I laughed till I had tears in my eyes. Daddy’s definitely doesn’t shape like a pineapple, I don’t know how she even connect the two.